“So, SP, do you want to do some work now?”
Thus went school yesterday.
But the teaching assistant did ask…and SP is never anything but honest.
He’s also not one to be swayed but what others are doing. It’s not just that he’s a black sheep amongst the class flock; he’s a cow!
At the moment it’s cute and endearing, but I’m not really how long this will hold sway. An obstinate 4-year-old is one thing; but a defiant 15-year-old? Undoubtedly by some point he’ll be less likely to get his own way and get into trouble.
In which case I can’t help but feel that mainstream schooling isn’t in his best interests long-term. Can a system that likes things done in a particular way meet the needs of someone so intent to do it his own way? But the nearest ASD-specific schools are so far away. I’m not sure what’s more likely to change: SP or the local authority’s realisation that there’s a need for accessible support and tailored education. Both are the definition of stubborn.
But when SP wants to do it, it’s all there. He’s taken in everything taught whilst he’s shielded his ears on the carpet; he knows how to form letters, even if he refuses to pick up a goddamn pencil; in passing conversation he’ll thrown in some maths.
After piling up the daily homework sheets for 3 weeks, SP finally decided he wanted to tackle them all in one hit. Ok, he has no interest in picking up a pencil, but his letter formation (“round the face, down the hair and give her a curl” is how they learn to write ‘g’ these days apparently) and phonics sounds were spot on. He rattled through them. And again. And again and again and again. When he’d done he gathered the sheets and threw them in the air. “Surprise!”
You’re not kidding! Too right I’m surprised.
When I showed a video of this to his class teacher she laughed. He mimicked her perfectly. “He’s happy to sit during the sessions but he won’t speak. But he’s obviously taking it all in.”
I think they were also surprised that he actually joined in with everything in PE today, rather than sticking to whichever piece of apparatus he likes the most. So much so, he’s got Star of the Week. (Again! And he’s only been there for five weeks!
It’s been a good week for SP. I don’t expect him to comply with everything the same way an NT child would: he doesn’t have that need to please others (which is by turns infuriating and refreshing). But thankfully, right now, his school are thinking along the same lines. Which is just as well as SP getting along, albeit in his own way, makes for a far happier time for him and thus a far easier time for everyone else. And that’s what I hope for most: for him to be happy going about things in his own way.
If only society would see that the cows are just as good as the sheep. Things would be a lot happier and easier all round.